Relationships get more complicated over time.
First, let me normalize this right off the bat: there are very few couples who don’t have some issues with sex and intimacy. But I know you are here because you wonder when this went so far off the tracks – and, “Can we get ‘us’ back?
This person was the love of your life! You could not keep your hands off each other! You could spend hours and hours talking together and forget about the sex! You couldn’t get enough. Now, you are like roommates or siblings. Even the thought of being intimate now makes you cringe, and the words, “I’m so tired, I’m so bloated, or I have a presentation due in the morning,” are a constant way to avoid any physical touch.
Maybe the overwhelm of life with young children is more than you anticipated, and there is not one more second in the day that you have for each other.
Or, on the opposite end of the “longest, shortest time,” the kids are on their way out the door to college, and the placating thought of how well you ran the business of your domestic life together is no longer cutting it. You wonder, “What do I possibly have to talk about with this person anymore?”
Find out who you are as a couple.
How do you want to live the rest of your life together? Are you still on the road toward the shared dream, or has the path diverged somewhere? Why is it so difficult to have a reasonable conversation? What happened to your sexual relationship?
At some point, couples ask these questions and many more. Finding answers is where couples therapy can help. Maintaining a functional, loving relationship takes work, and dealing with issues is easier before they become overwhelming.
As a therapist, I have worked with many couples as they identify underlying issues that keep them apart and learn to repair the broken parts.
Together, we can figure out what you want as a couple again, allowing you to regain the intimacy, pleasure, and passion that you once took for granted. You deserve this! Let’s figure out how to get back there again.
How does couples therapy work?
Every romantic partnership is different. No one can honestly know what goes on inside of your relationship. We fine-tune our work to that truth and use the best approach for your relationship.
Through the evidence-based modalities of Emotionally Focused Therapy, we examine how your attachment styles affect your connection. The Gottman Technique can help you learn how to turn toward each other instead of away from each other.
Through Relational Life Therapy, you learn how to form a deeper connection in all layers of intimacy: romantic, sexual, intellectual, and existential and Sensate-Focused Therapy helps provide a road map to rebuild that physical connection possibly lost because of complacency, boredom, illness, or betrayal.
Let’s work together to make your relationship less complicated and help you regain the intimacy you desire. Contact me today for more information about how I can help you as a couple.